Marriage...is what brings us TOGETHER

I've been thinking a lot lately about this marriage thing.  Brennen's on his way back from West Virginia and I kinda miss him..a lot.  Last night as I was about to go to bed (around 11:30) there was this guy yelling  in the street.  Sounded like "MARY!! MARY WHERE ARE YOU?!" or something to that extent.  The street is blocked off due to construction or else he wouldn't be out there.  At first i thought he was just drunk or something.  Then I thought maybe he lost a dog or something.  As the minutes went on, he kept calling for this "Mary" and became more panicked and upset.  Then I thought he might have lost a child.  After a few more minutes of calling and searching, I realize he was looking for his wife.  I could tell when he found her because he became angry.  I was a horrible person and listened in on this whole ordeal.  I wondered if I should call the police or tell them that they needed to go do whatever they needed to do privately so as not to disturb everyone living on that street and so that they would not have the whole neighborhood listening in on their conversation.  But I just found myself listening and praying for them.  I know what that's like.  To have a fight and want to just leave.  Luckily during an argument Brennen has never let me leave--except for once.  He's one of those get-it-solved-here-and-now guys and that has been a great blessing (and sometimes a curse, haha) in our marriage.  Sometimes I get so worked up that I need a little space.  The one time I left, I took my book and headed to who-knows-where.  I ended up at Beaver Dick Park. I don't know why, that's just where I ended up.  Just as I got comfortable in the reclined driver's seat and started reading my book, movement in the rear-view mirror caught my eye.  Well, it was Brennen.  He hadn't followed me, I'd made sure of that.  He found me.  Don't ask me how because I never would have driven to Beaver Dick if I had been anything but upset. And he has been finding me ever since. So I listened to this couple argue in the street.  I couldn't see them, and I couldn't understand anything the woman was saying, but the man was really loud.  Then he started to just sob phrases like "Please don't leave me" and "You are my entire life".  I started to feel like I needed to leave, but I just kept listening and praying (I'm terrible!).
How is it possible to go from this :

To wanting to leave?  Marriage, I don't think, has ever been easy.  Since the beginning of time. Think about Adam and Eve.  The first married couple on earth.  Do you think their marriage was easy?  I don't.  I have had the hardest time with giving up the notion that marriage is never anything less than blissful.  I was so naive.  But I'm grateful for the lessons that life has taught me in the last two years, two months, and three days.  And I'm still learning. My definitions of communication, compromise, love, friendship, compassion, empathy, understanding, appreciation, admiration, and intimacy have definitely changed since the day I got married.  John M. Gottman said in his book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work,"In the strongest marriages, husband and wife share a deep sense of meaning.  They don't just 'get along'--they also support each other's hopes and aspirations and build a sense of purpose into their lives together.  That is really what I mean when I talk about honoring and respecting each other" (Gottman, 23).  Pretty profound words if you ask me.  I don't claim to have a perfect marriage.  No one can.  I'm a pessimist.  Listening to that couple last night has really made me think about my marriage and how much Brennen and I have both changed since April 16, 2010.  It has made me really appreciate what we do have, and put a hold on pining for the things we don't have.  I guess the moral of my story is this: No one is perfect, and, therefore, no one has "the perfect marriage."  If you and your spouse are having a rotten time at it, look for the good in your relationship and in each other.  And it never hurts to send a prayer heavenward.